self is the products of our relation ships and interactions with others and it exists only in our brains self a soul an agent with free will some essential and unique set of qualities what’s we experience as a self is actually a narrative spun by our. neural activity reveals what an individual will do before that person becomes consciouals of having made a decision. perhaps our sense of free will is just away for our brain to organize our actions and memories that our sense of self is an after the fact organization track for the brain the self maybe the greatest trick our brain has ever played on us that believing it makes life more fulfilling the illusion is difficult if not impossible to disple.